Abraham Maslow said “You will either step forward into GROWTH, or you will step back into SAFETY.” Every time I read this, it gives me the strength to push forward!
Fear turns out to be one of the main causes of failure in life. Fear cripples. Whenever people set out to pursue something they really want or a big change, they will hit what Bob Proctor coined “the terror barrier.” Whether you want to transition out of your corporate job and open your own business, whether you dream of living in a different country, or maybe you want to go for a job that is much bigger in responsibilities than your current one, or you are about to make a drastic change in a personal relationship, you will hit the terror barrier. And when you face that fear, one of two things will occur: you will push through or you will go back into safety, back in the comfort zone.
Why does this happen you may wonder? Let’s take a close look at the chatter that may be going on in your mind: “What if you are making a mistake, what if you fail, what if you are not earning enough to support your family, what if this is the wrong decision, what if you don’t know the answers, what if you can’t find the resources you need, who do you think you are?”
Some of those thoughts may be valid, but they come from a limited mindset, they reflect your current paradigms. Now, it doesn’t mean that you won’t fail, it doesn’t mean that you won’t make mistakes, etc… But the only way to get to your goal is to take that risk. If your dream and goal is worthy enough, then it is worth that set of risk. If you are still struggling with making that leap, ask yourself: What’s the risk of not trying? What’s the price of staying in your current situation and only wishing things were different or that you had pushed through?
When people step back into safety, they rationalize that their current situation is not that bad. It’s comfortable… But you are only telling yourself a story.
There is a risk and a price to everything. But with the right self-image and confidence, with the understanding that fear is part of the growth process, you know that even if you make mistakes, even if you encounter temporary failure, you will make it through and find a solution, and the outcome is worth it!
It also requires that you accept the idea that you may not see right now where the help and resources you need will come from, but you still push through. This is where true faith comes in – when you know you will achieve your goal and that everything will align to make it happen. But it’s up to you to develop that faith by being in harmony with your goal, coming from your goal, instead of a place of want, lack and limitation.
It should not be forgotten that none of us know how long we will live, so if you haven’t yet made the decision to pursue your dreams, to create the life that you really want, now is the time. If you have been stuck in that terror barrier zone, now is the time to face it and plow right through it. It’s time to realize your goals and dreams.
Being uncomfortable means growth. In fact, Sandy Gallagher also said “Fear and growth go hand in hand. When you courageously face the thing you fear, you automatically experience the growth you have been seeking.”
So are you ready for growth? Are you ready to create the life you want, pursue your dreams and goals?
If you are ready to make it happen and need help pushing through that terror barrier, book a free coaching session and I can show you how. It’s time!