A job loss is more than just a job loss – the loss of a position at a specific organization and the income that was associated with it. It is a loss that goes much deeper. We spend so much time at work that our identity is deeply tied to our work and the loss of a job can really put in question our self-esteem, our self-worth, our competencies, and our identity. Our confidence is shaken in the process, and this can leave us with a feeling that we are not capable. We start doubting our abilities.
The loss of a job can be a dramatic event in a person’s life, but it can become a steppingstone into something greater. In fact, it can turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to you – though in the moment it may not appear that way and can be quite challenging. As Steve Jobs said, “you can only connect the dots looking backwards,” so this is going to require that you trust the process somehow…
Part of the challenge is that we are focused on the loss. The financial aspect adds to the stress, but this is where it is paramount to shift our focus to what we WANT vs. the lack or loss, as the more attention we give to those, the more we stay in the same situation, and it can paralyze us.
A job loss is great time to not only re-assess priorities but also redefine WHO you are, WHAT you want and focus on that solely. When we learn to focus on that, it can propel us into action bound to yield amazing results, opening doors that were never visible before. On the flipside, if we focus on the loss, we are likely to stay stuck in inaction, and therefore stay in the same situation.
Now is the time to realize you have a deep reservoir of potential and really ask yourself: What do you love to do? What do you want your life to be like? Who do you want to be and become?
Don’t grab the first job – be very intentional about the job you select because this will determine your long-term success and happiness in it.
This may also be the time to start that business you’ve always wanted to launch but never had the time to because of your prior work! The possibilities abound.
No matter what you decide is right for you, here are a few simple steps to get you on track:
- Take an inventory of your strengths, accomplishments, and successes.
- Ask yourself what do you love to do? We typically become more successful and fulfilled when we do something we love. Then figure out what your ideal job (or business) would look like. Go for what you really want. Do not settle for less or you will be frustrated quickly. Learn to set logic to the side. Success rarely comes from logical moves. Dare being illogical!
- What additional competencies or training do you need to gain to make that dream job or business happen?
- What mentors can you surround yourself with to expedite that process?
- Don’t spend any time thinking about the loss. Focus only on what you want and who you want to become.
- Go after that dream like there is no tomorrow – whether it’s a new business, new career path, a big job, or something else.
- Work on your mindset: Develop persistence in the face of obstacles: one more NO gets you closer to a YES. Develop a CAN DO and CAN HAVE attitude: only focus on how you can, don’t give any attention to the reasons why you can’t.
- Study yourself and build your self-image. Understand the potential you have within you and how to develop it.
And remember: You got this!!!
Author: Lu Tandazo - Transformational Mindset Coach
Lu focuses on assisting individuals in rebuilding their lives by design and experience the success, love and abundance they deserve. Lu has reinvented herself a few times through multiple careers and now guides others going through major life transitions.
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