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My Self-Image and Me

Life has a way of throwing us curve balls, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a divorce, the birth of a special needs child, the loss of a job… Those particular events lead us to question our identity, our role(s) in this life and world.

Sometimes our self-esteem takes a hit, sometimes our priorities shift completely. We go through a phase of rediscovering who we are and what our purpose is.

As we walk the path of uncharted territory, we feel a little wobbly, and though we strive to keep going confidently, a lot of questions and worries go through our minds.

Part of rebuilding our new self requires a conscious decision. We must first decide on our new purpose, where we are going, what we want our life to be like and who we want to become. Without doing so, we tend to remain trapped in the past and in the emotions that were triggered by those events and changed our lives forever.

Without that conscious effort, we remain stuck – stuck in our circumstances.

So take charge. You are truly capable of achieving anything you set your mind to, if you will learn how to use your mind.

Rebuilding that self-image is vitally important because it is the key to anything you will accomplish in life. In fact, Dr. Maxwell Maltz states that our self-image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment. We can never go beyond our self-image. Dr. Maltz even adds that all our actions, feelings, behaviors – even abilities – are always consistent with our self-image. It is a framework that controls everything we do.

A portion of our self-image was built from our early childhood, the rest, from our life experiences, including major life changes. While our past experiences have shaped our self-image, we however have the power to change it. We just need to learn how.

Our self-image is responsible for our career accomplishments, happy marriages, thriving children, prosperity, health and many other aspects of our lives. So it behooves us to really take a look at our self-image and improve it. It controls all of the choices we make in life, all of the dreams we dare to go for.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz then further explains that our subconscious mind is a “goal-striving servo-mechanism” – meaning that we are goal-seeking organisms and the goal our subconscious mind is going after (much like a torpedo is) is tied to our self-image and the thoughts we have. Dr. Maltz later states “This creative mechanism within you is impersonal. It will work automatically and impersonally to achieve goals of success and happiness, or unhappiness and failure.” The goal is our self-image. So if we are subconsciously driven by our self-image, we must ensure we program the right self-image, the right goal in our mind. That is the only way we can create the life we want. Working harder will not cut it. We have to change the inside FIRST!

Are you ready to create the new you and build better life for yourself?

If you are ready to make it happen, book a free coaching session and I can show you how. There is no commitment required!

P.S: For you all mommas out there, especially moms of special needs kids… This concept is vitally important. Your child is learning from you! If you want your child to reach his/her full potential, you will need to pave the way first! So while you may think you don’t have the time, money, energy to do this, or it’s not a priority right now, think again. Your child will benefit from this as much as you will… Make your growth a priority – because your whole family will benefit. I know my whole family did (in many ways) and as a result, they are thriving more than ever!

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