The way you are feeling about New Year’s resolutions is probably a good tell-tale sign of how long you were able to sustain them previously and whether or not you were able to accomplish what you had set out to accomplish.
New Year’s resolutions are a great idea in the sense that you get inspired to accomplish something, to raise the bar, to bring the best version of you in the next year… However, after a few weeks or a few months, it’s not uncommon that things fizzle out, only to be right back where you were at. Why?
Because nothing changed inside. Anything that’s going to truly push you to the next level first needs to be changed in the subconscious mind since it controls 96-98% of our behaviors. So while we initially start doing what we had set out to do (whether it’s going to the gym, starting a project, reading daily, eating better, etc…), invariably, we tend to go back to our default MO. If we want to set ourselves up for success, we need to go back to the root cause of our behavior – which creates our results. Unfortunately, sheer willpower can get you started and take you up to a certain point, but it won’t sustain you.
Now, let’s go back to your New Year’s resolutions. If you truly want to accomplish something in 2023, you are going to have to take a good look at your paradigms (which are set of habits and beliefs that control everything in your life). Those control whether you will achieve your New Year’s resolution next year.
So what habits are not serving you right now? What thoughts and beliefs are behind those habits? Where did those habits come from? What new thought, new belief could you create to override the old paradigm?
Paradigms are tenacious, so you will need to truly dedicate yourself to changing them. But the reward is incredible, because when you change the inside, the results on the outside will change drastically, and that applies to anything: whether you want healthier relationships, a better career or boost your business, lose weight, improve your health, improve your finances, etc… Your paradigms are in control of everything: your logic, time-management, productivity, effectiveness, the way you interact with people, your ability to earn money, even your dreams… That’s why trying harder never works – doing more of the same is a recipe for burnout.
As you set out to craft your New Year’s resolutions, ask yourself:
- What do you really want to accomplish and why? Why is it important to you and how badly do you want it? Note that many people don’t stick to their New Year’s resolutions because they didn’t set the right goals, it wasn’t something that truly inspired them. So make sure you pick something that really gets you excited, that’s going to stretch you and inspire you on a daily basis. This will force you to grow, to adopt new behaviors, and keep you going when things get tough. If your “why” behind the goal is strong enough, then you are on the right path.
- Did you pick more than one goal? If you did, make sure you pick just one or 2 goals at the most. The mind can truly only focus on one thing at a time, so if you endeavor too many things at once, you will get nothing done and spread yourself too thin. Focus your efforts so you can actually make it happen.
- What beliefs, thoughts and habits will you need to change to accomplish that goal? And start working on one at a time.
- What support will you need to help you accomplish your goal? Who can you partner with to help you get there (it may be talent, it may be resources, it may be just someone’s insights, etc)…
Wishing you a wonderful end of the year and take the time to reflect about what you truly want to accomplish next year! Have fun doing it!
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Written by: Lu Tandazo - Success Mindset Coach and Proctor Gallagher Consultant